Asian man with tear rolling down side of face alone in dark room as he suffers suicidal ideations and thoughts of suicide

Coping with Suicidal Ideations

Trigger Warning: This blog post discusses suicide and suicidal thoughts. If you're experiencing suicidal ideation, please reach out for help. You're not alone.

I remember the first time I felt the weight of depression crushing me. It wasn't just sadness – it was an all-consuming despair that made me want to disappear. As I lay in bed, covers pulled over my head, crying so hard I thought my skull might burst, I found myself imagining ways to make it all stop. Permanently.

That's when I realized I was experiencing suicidal ideation.

What is Suicidal Ideation?

Suicidal ideation isn't just about planning to end your life. It's a spectrum of thoughts that can range from a fleeting "I wish I wasn't here" to detailed plans for suicide. In my case, it manifested as a constant undercurrent of wanting to escape existence.

I thought about the medications I had easy access to, thanks to my chronic migraines. I wondered if I could just hold my breath until it all went away. I even caught myself hoping my plane would crash on the way home – a form of "secondhand suicide" where you wish for fatal accidents to happen to you.

The Causes and Risks

Suicidal ideation often stems from a complex interplay of factors. For me, it was triggered by unprocessed grief and a deep-seated depression. But everyone's journey is different.

Common risk factors include [1]:

  • Mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, or bipolar disorder
  • Chronic pain or illness
  • Traumatic experiences
  • Substance abuse
  • Family history of suicide

It's crucial to understand that having risk factors doesn't mean you're destined to experience suicidal thoughts. But it does mean it's extra important to prioritize your mental health.

Recognizing the Signs

Looking back, I can see the warning signs that I was struggling with suicidal ideation [2]:

  • Withdrawing from friends and family
  • Feeling hopeless about the future
  • Increased negative coping mechanisms
  • Dramatic mood swings
  • Talking about wanting to die or feeling trapped

If you notice these signs in yourself or a loved one, it's time to reach out for help.

The Ripple Effects

Suicidal ideation doesn't just affect the person experiencing it. It creates ripples that touch everyone around them. In my darkest moments, it was thinking about my little sister that pulled me back from the brink. The thought of causing her pain was unbearable.

Suicidal thoughts can also lead to [3]:

  • Increased risk of suicide attempts
  • Worsening mental health symptoms
  • Strain on relationships
  • Difficulty functioning in daily life

Finding Hope and Help

The turning point for me came when I realized I needed more help than I could give myself. I reached out to my counselor, who recognized the severity of the situation and connected me with additional resources.

If you're struggling with suicidal thoughts, please know that help is available:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
  • The Trevor Project (LGBTQ+ support): 1-866-488-7386 or Text START to 678-678

Remember, seeking help isn't a sign of weakness – it's an act of immense courage and self-love.

My journey through suicidal ideation was long and difficult, but I'm grateful every day that I chose to stay. Life can get better, even when it feels impossible. If you're in that dark place right now, please reach out. You're not alone, and you deserve support.

References:

[1] National Institute of Mental Health. (Feb 2024). Suicide. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/suicide 

[2] American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. (n.d.). Risk factors, protective factors, and warning signs. https://afsp.org/risk-factors-and-warning-signs 

[3] Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. (n.d.). Suicide and Suicidal Behavior. https://www.samhsa.gov/suicide